Discovering Your Purpose in Midlife—Without the Existential Crisis

Let’s be real—midlife can feel like an identity crisis wrapped in a never-ending to-do list.

One day, you know exactly who you are, what you want, and where you're going.

The next? You're staring into your coffee, wondering what’s next—and why you just walked into a room for the third time with no clue why.

If this sounds familiar, welcome to the awakening. Because that’s what this is—it’s not a crisis, it’s an opportunity to rediscover yourself.

Here’s what’s really happening when you start questioning everything:

🚩 Your old roles are shifting. Maybe the kids are more independent, your career doesn’t excite you the way it used to, or the things that once defined you just don’t fit anymore. (Think: wearing jeans from 2005 and wondering why they feel wrong—it’s not you, it’s them.)

🚩 Your priorities have changed. Things that used to feel urgent? Now they feel… meh. And things you never thought twice about? Now you can’t stop thinking about them.

🚩 You’ve spent so much time taking care of everyone else… that you’ve forgotten to ask yourself, “Wait—what do I actually want?”

Sound familiar? That’s because this stage of life is less about losing yourself and more about finding yourself all over again.

The best part? You get to decide what that looks like.

Your purpose isn’t about having a fancy title or a perfect 10-year plan. It’s about doing what makes you feel ALIVE.

Here’s how to start rediscovering it—without the pressure of “figuring it all out.”

💡 Step 1: Look Back at What’s Always Lit You Up

🚨 Ask yourself:

✔️ As a kid, what did I love doing just for fun? (Before anyone told me if it was “useful” or not?)

✔️ When do I feel most in flow—like time disappears?

✔️ What am I naturally drawn to, even if I haven’t made time for it?

✨ Clarity doesn’t come from forcing an answer—it comes from reconnecting with what’s already inside you.

Maybe you used to love writing, painting, dancing, or being outside. Maybe you thrived on helping others, solving problems, or working with your hands.Those things didn’t disappear—you just got busy with life.

💡 Step 2: Stop Overthinking & Start Exploring

You don’t need a perfect plan. You just need to follow what feels good.

✔️ Try something new, just because it excites you.

✔️ Say YES to something that sparks curiosity—even if it feels random.

✔️ Let go of the pressure to have it “all figured out.”

🚨 The secret? You don’t find purpose—you uncover it through action.

Start small:

🎨 Always wanted to paint? Buy the damn paints and see what happens.

📚 Keep thinking about a certain topic? Read about it, take a class, join a group.

💬 Love talking to people? Volunteer, mentor, start conversations.

The point is: you can’t think your way into clarity—you have to try things.

💡 Step 3: Align Your Life with What Matters Most

🚨 Ask yourself:

✔️ What do I want MORE of in my life? (Joy? Connection? Creativity? Freedom?)

✔️ What do I need to let go of to make space for it? (Old expectations? Guilt? A schedule that drains me?)

✔️ How can I start living in alignment with what truly matters?

Your purpose isn’t about doing MORE—it’s about doing what’s MEANINGFUL.

Maybe your purpose isn’t one big thing—maybe it’s a combination of small things that make you feel whole.

Maybe it’s mentoring others, creating, leading, or simply showing up as the most YOU version of yourself possible.

Whatever it is, it’s not too late. You’re not lost—you’re just stepping into the next version of yourself.

✨ Want deeper guidance? I walk you through the process step by step that I personally walked through in my new book!

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Because your best chapter isn’t behind you—it’s just getting started. 💛